In Keeping the Faith, Billy
Joel sang, “If it seems like I've been lost in let's remember. If
you think I'm feeling older, and missing my younger days. Oh, then
you should have known me much better … And I'm not ashamed to say the wild boys
were my friends.”
Nostalgia, of course, is not necessarily
good or bad. It depends on how nostalgia translates into current thoughts,
feelings, actions, and activities.
Let’s start with the potential
benefits. Nostalgia can help us recall past experiences that can be
used constructively to deal with present challenges. We gain
confidence, for instance, by remembering how we successfully persevered in a
difficulty school course that we had wanted to drop. And we bolster
our problem solving repertoire by recollecting how we once creatively overcame
a previously threatening financial crisis.
Nostalgia also can reinforce positive
features of our identity. When reflecting on our past, we can see
how our behaviors and attitudes have stood the test of time, that we have maintained
our integrity to a constructive outcome despite all our trials and
tribulations.
Similarly, nostalgia can contribute to our healthful interpersonal relationships. Like Billy Joel, family and friends often become “lost in let’s remember” to their mutual delight. Research has suggested that to remain strong relationships need at least five positive interactions for every negative one, five supportive, constructive interactions. And nostalgic reflections certainly can serve that purpose.
A final benefit that I will address is the
stress-reducing one. It is no secret that nostalgia can be an escape
from an unpleasant present into a fondly recalled past. That is,
nostalgia can help propagate positive feelings, and positive feelings mitigate
stress. Less well-known is the fact that nostalgia can help relieve
physiological discomfort. Xinyue Zhou and colleagues
(2012) demonstrated, for instance, that pleasant nostalgia literally produced a
warm feeling in their experimental subjects. Those recalling
positive nostalgic memories were less distressed and more tolerant of an
induced cold condition (the cold pressor test) than were those remembering
non-nostalgic autobiographical memories.
Sounds great, doesn’t it? But
our everyday experience is that while most nostalgia is pleasant, some is
not. When writing the nostalgia-supporting comments above I
consistently used the verb “can” because we all know that nostalgia “can” also
be detrimental. Becoming lost in negative “let’s remember”
contributes to stress, depression, and discontent. Equally
important, even “positive” nostalgia can become a
distraction. Physical and mental health demands activity and
anything that lulls us into prolonged inactivity and complacency is suspect.
References
Gottman, J. M. (1994). What predicts
divorce: The relationship between marital processes and marital outcomes.
Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum.
Zhou, X., et al. (2012).
Heartwarming memories: Nostalgia maintains physiological comfort.. Emotion, 12, 4), 678-684. doi:
http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/a0027236.
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